SUCCESS
BY DR. BRIAN K. BAILEY

Copyright 1997

 

"Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people--your family, friends & coworkers and even strangers you meet along the way."

-Barbara Bush

 

In my study of successful people, I have found many common characteristics, perhaps the most powerful ones are: PERSISTENCE coupled with DETERMINATION.

"NOTHING IN THE WORLD CAN TAKE THE PLACE OF PERSISTENCE. TALENT WILL NOT : NOTHING IS MORE COMMON THAN UNSUCCESSFUL MEN WITH TALENT. GENIUS WILL NOT : UNREWARDED GENIUS IS ALMOST A PROVERB

EDUCATION ALONE WILL NOT : THE WORLD IS FULL OF EDUCATED DERELICTS. PERSISTENCE AND DETERMINATION ALONE ARE OMNIPOTENT."

-Calvin Coolidge

 

One important point that must be remembered, is that you can have anything you want, but you can't have everything. When you choose your goals and path in life there will be sacrifices. For example, if you want to be an Olympic athlete there will be very little room for other activities for years. Most of your life will be spent training or resting for the next workout.

Read the biographies of the people you would like to emulate. In most biographies, you will find a long hard road paved with failure and disappointment. These lessons were necessary to show the path to success. Like the refiner's fire produces quality metal and the trial of fire, ice and folding of metal produces a fine sword.

Albert Einstein didn't speak until age four and didn't read until age seven. His teacher described him as, "mentally slow, unsociable and adrift forever in his foolish dreams." He was expelled and refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School.

Walt Disney was fired for lack of ideas by a newspaper editor. He also went bankrupt several times before he built Disneyland. Henry Ford went broke five times before he finally succeeded. Babe Ruth holds the record for being struckout. Thomas Edison's teacher said he was too stupid to learn anything. You can read 18 more similar stories in the New York Times, #1 bestseller, Chicken Soup for the Soul and 48 more in its two sequels, both New York Times, #1 bestsellers. In the 3rd Serving of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen write:

When we wrote Chicken Soup for the Soul, it was turned down by 33 publishers before Health Communications agreed to publish it. All the major New York publishers said, "it is too nicey-nice" and "Nobody wants to read a book of short little stories." Since that time over 7 million copies of Chicken Soup for the Soul, A 2nd Helping of Chicken Soup for the Soul and the Chicken Soup for the Soul Cookbook have been sold worldwide, with these books translated into 20 languages.

 

The life of Abraham Lincoln is probably the greatest example of persistence:

 

1816 His family was forced out of their home.

He had to work to support them.

1818 Death of his mother and sister as a child

Entered the Blackhawk War as a captain by the end of the war demoted to private.

1831 Failed business partnership in a general store

1832 Defeat as a candidate for state legislature.

Also lost his job&emdash;he couldn't get into law school

1833 Borrowed money from a friend to begin a business and

by the end of the year he was bankrupt.

1835 Death of his sweetheart.

1836 Suffered a nervous breakdown and was bed ridden for 6 months.

Death of three of his young sons.

1843 and 1844, Defeat when he ran for congress.

1849 Lost nomination as commissioner

1855 Defeat as a candidate for Senate.

1856 Defeat as vice presidential candidate.

1858 Defeat as a candidate for Senate.

Even as president he had his detractors. Here is a letter he wrote as president:


"If I were trying to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might well be closed for any other business. I do the best I know how, the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing it to the end. If the end brings me out all right, what is said against me will not amount to anything. If the end brings me out all wrong, ten angels swearing I was right would make no difference."

This quotation was given to Winston Churchill on his 70th birthday by Franklin Delano Roosevelt. It became one of his favorite quotes. Churchill failed the 6th grade.


"Never, Never, Never Quit." Winston Churchill

 

"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat."

-Theodore Roosevelt

 

Don't Quit!

 

When things go wrong as they sometimes will.

When the road your trudging seems all up hill.

When funds are low and debts are high.

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns.

As everyone of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about.

When he might have won had he stuck it out:

Don't give up though the pace seems slow--

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out--

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

And you can never tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems so far:

So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit--

It's when things seem worst that you must not QUIT.

Author unknown

 

Persistence is one essential quality to success, however, without a plan or a path it is worthless. Life is very much like a journey. We need to know where we are going and have a road map of how to get there.

 

"Those who fail to plan, plan to fail."

-Ben Franklin

 

The very first step is to determine what we want in life. What would you do if you had no limitations? What are the sacrifices involved? Am I willing to make the sacrifices? Make your plan, set your goals and write your road map.

 

THERE IS NOTHING TO IT BUT TO DO IT!

 

What stops us from achieving our goals? FEAR of FAILURE stops us from beginning. Lack of commitment, discipline or clear vision will allow us to quit. Put feet to your prayers. Plan your work and work your plan.

 

SOMEDAY ISLE IS A PLACE SOME PEOPLE SPEND THEIR LIVES, If you want to make changes in your life do it now or set a date.

 

Remember to be flexible for the one constant in life is change. The roadmap you have made is much like that of a pilot's. There are constantly changing crosswinds and the pilot must continually make course corrections. If you are not making course corrections you may arrive in a totally different place than you expected.

 

"Use wisely your power of choice."

--Og Mandino

 

The greatest power we have is the power of choice. Life is all a choice. We can choose everything we do. We are right now, the sum total of all our past life choices. Don't give that power away. If you have, like many others, then, reclaim it!

There is nothing we have to do. When we say I have to do this or that, we then become slaves to whatever it is we have to do. Don't say have to instead say choose to. Other words to eliminate are negative or limiting words such as:

 

HAVE TO

SHOULD

INADEQUATE

HATE

TRY

IMPOSSIBLE

OUGHT TO

CAN'T

LIMITATION

NEVER

ALWAYS

DIFFICULT

BUT

DOUBT

HOPELESS

IF ONLY

FAILURE

MAKES ME FEEL

 

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded."

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I am responsible for my success.

His latest book is the SECRETS TO HAPPINESS, INNER PEACE AND HEALTH: COMPLETE GUIDE TO OPTIMAL WELLNESS OF BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT); his 1997 corporate lecture series is TWELVE ESSENTIAL KEYS TO SUCCESS.

Dr. Bailey also does consultation worldwide over the phone, mail or by e-mail.

(606) 324-3668 or Email To

 

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For more infomation about Sucess read the Secrets to Happiness, Inner Peace and Health.

 

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