FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

From Secrets to Happiness, Inner Peace and Health

by Dr. Brian K. Bailey Copyright 1997

A life without purpose is like a trip without direction.

 

Some people live their whole lives without purpose. When they approach the end of their sojourn on earth they fear death and think, is that all there is?

 

"Great minds have purposes, others have wishes."

&emdash;Washington Irving

 

Dr. Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychologist who survived the death camps of Nazi Germany, made an important discovery. He found one factor above all others including&emdash;health, survival skills and intelligence. This factor was purpose&emdash;a future vision of work they were yet to do, a mission to perform. Dr. Frankl said we don't invent our mission; we detect it. It is within us waiting to be realized.

 

Everyone has a purpose, it is not a goal that can be attained, purpose is like a direction your life is headed.

 

My personal mission statement is:

To love and serve humankind by helping as many people as I can to be healthy: spiritually, emotionally and physically. To do this I will keep myself healthy: spiritually, emotionally and physically. I will follow the precepts in my book, Secrets to Happiness, Inner Peace and Health to the best of my ability. In order to serve well, I will constantly read, write, study and speak about all areas dealing with health of the body, mind and spirit. To improve my ability to serve my purpose, I will remember my humanity by helping people on a personal and individual basis. I will tithe my time, talents or resources to help those in need including worthy causes.

Creating your own empowering mission statement takes a very deep examination of who you are and why you are here. You will have the answers to these questions when you thoroughly understand the first half of this book. Your mission statement will use your talents, provide for personal growth in all ten areas listed for goal setting (next chapter) and have a transcendent purpose. Your personal mission statement is written to inspire you&emdash;not to impress anyone else. Your mission was chosen by you before you came into your body, to this time and place. It is the reason you are here. It is why you are now reading this. Fulfill your destiny.

An important set of clues to your purpose are the talents you were given and the direction life has been trying to point you. Another clue is what do you do that gives you the most lasting pleasure. The reward of following your purpose is happiness and fulfillment. Do the best you can now to discover your purpose, schedule a personal retreat as close to nature as possible to refine it.

Have a picture in your mind of who you want to become to accomplish your mission. I have a picture in my mind of who I am becoming. My picture is a combination of many people most of whom I have quoted in this book.

For someone to find their purpose, all they need to do is listen. Many people pray to find their answers but fail to listen. By sitting quietly, not thinking, just listening that the answers will come. Part of our purpose here on earth is for advancement of our spirituality, which is a primary goal of this book. This book is designed to help you understand and learn from the school of life. The school of life will constantly give you learning situations necessary for your spiritual progression. Develop a constant awareness and search for meaning in life's events. There will be people, places and things that are "signposts" for which direction your life is to head. More will be taught about this in later chapters.

What in the world would you like to see changed the most? This is a clue to your purpose. If you could do anything to help the world, what would it be? To help you answer this, list your talents. How can these talents assist the world in positive change? Are there talents you can develop or acquire that will help you?

Changing the world begins with changing yourself. The positive example that you give to a child may have more influence on the world than a lifetime career.

 

The most important work you ever do may

be within the four walls of your own home.

 

I have a purpose, if I listen quietly it will be revealed to me. I will be directed in my life everyday when I take the time to listen.

 

GOALS

 

"If you fail to plan you plan to fail"

Ben Franklin

 

While purpose is the direction your life is headed, goals are the destinations. Goals require a roadmap. Short term goals are where we plan to be each day on our trip through life. Long term goals are where we plan on being in future years. With no goals, or if we lose sight of our goals, we will lose our sense of direction or purpose.

 

"If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes."

Andrew Carnegie

 

First, set your long term goals. Dream big, have no limits&emdash;what would you do if you had no limits? Describe the steps necessary to get there. In order to track your progress, these steps must be measurable and have a time table for their accomplishment. Always make sure your goals are in alignment with your purpose and your life's mission statement.

 

'Where there is no vision the people perish."

Proverbs 29:18

 

"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal."&emdash;Henry Ford

 

I am going to list 10 areas of personal growth, please rate each area from 1 to 10 with 5 being average and 10 perfect (based on your ideal of perfect for you eg. what you are happy with). Start with five years ago, then today and end with where you want to be in five years:

 

5yrs ago Today 5yrs future

Physically ________ ________ ________

Mentally ________ ________ ________

Emotionally ________ ________ ________

Spiritually ________ ________ ________

Relationship ________ ________ ________

Family ________ ________ ________

Career ________ ________ ________

Financially ________ ________ ________

Living environment ________ ________ ________

Socially ________ ________ ________

 

Rank these areas on paper from 1 to 10 based on their importance to you (you may add other areas that are important to you). Now, on separate sheets of paper brainstorm for at least 5 minutes each on everything you would like to do to improve in each area. This brainstorming must be done without limits as to money, time or anything else. Write everything that comes to mind no matter how silly or impractical it seems at the moment. Now, review each area and pick one thing you can do immediately and rate at least 4 more that you will begin when the first one is done or being done. Make a commitment to accomplish goals in as many areas as you feel comfortable with now. Goals without commitment and persistence are worthless.

 

W.H. Murray, in The Scottish Himalayan Expedition, explained it thus:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never other wise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets:

 

Whatever you can do,

or dream you can, begin it.

Boldness has genius,

power and magic in it.

 

Once your goals are made, make your commitments, believe, visualize and affirm their fulfillment.

I challenge you, right now to quickly fill in the following form or copy it and place it on your bathroom mirror. This is the beginning of a new and more productive life. Later, you will want to spend more time and perfect these goals. For now, this gets you started. No more procrastination!

Set a Date&emdash;as John Marks Templeton said, "A deadline is to a task what a corral is to a herd of wild horses. It surrounds untamed impressions, thoughts and feelings with a clear boundary which allows your ideas to formulate as an attainable goal. Most people cannot effectively begin a project until they can see an end to it, a point of fulfillment. A goal without a deadline is a goal never reached. ... Remember, deadlines are lifelines that define your unlimited success." Keep your deadline flexible so if unforeseen problems arise it can be reset.

 

"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours... If you have built sandcastles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now, put foundations under them."

&emdash;Henry David Thoreau

 

Goals

date to begin/finish

Physical:

 

Mental (continuing education):

 

Emotional:

 

Spiritual:

 

Relationship:

 

Family:

 

Career:

 

Financial:

 

Living Environment:

 

Social (service to community):

 

Six final rules:

1. Make sure your goals are in alignment with your personal mission statement.

2. Make your goals specific.

3. Set a deadline.

4. Write as much detail about your goals as possible.

5. Learn all you can about your goals.

6. Search diligently for opportunity, expect to find it.

7. Be persistent, work hard, enjoy the process.

 

Aim at the moon and you will

never shoot yourself in the foot.

His latest book is the SECRETS TO HAPPINESS, INNER PEACE AND HEALTH: COMPLETE GUIDE TO OPTIMAL WELLNESS OF BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT); his 1997 corporate lecture series is TWELVE ESSENTIAL KEYS TO SUCCESS.

Dr. Bailey also does consultation worldwide over the phone, mail or by e-mail.

 

 

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